Action, water, lonliness and warm bodies

Well, I need to start taking some action. That's an understatement. I have a lot of projects, yet I don't drink enough water to stay awake. I wont make much sense to a lot of you, but that's OK. Started researching publishing companies, but just realized how lonely I am. Its hard to concentrate on all the things you need to take action on when your lonely. Soul before physical... but don't discount having a warm body beside you.

Looking for company for all that misery?

Well, it seems like this is the time to find someone special. Perhaps it is the down economy, but dating sights and services are skyrocketing. My theory is that we are all just so depressed with things that are out of our control that we are looking for one thing to actually work out for us. Love. Cant control the stock market. Cant control getting laid off. Pretty much all of life right now really seems out of control for most of us. And it doesn't help that we don't have anyone to share in our misery.
Lets change that!
Having someone in your life just seems to make the disappointments a little more manageable, right?! And I know that finding someone to make us happy is something that we all want to think we are in control of. But, honestly, it's really not that easy. I know many of you guys are just afraid to start looking, for fear of not finding anything. The confirmation that one more thing is outside of your control could just be too much to handle. End result? You spend your nights alone drinkng cheap bear or just wandering the lonely streets of Seattle, falling further and further into the depths of relationship despair. Truth is, there are many possibilities out there, but it may actually take a little practice before you are on your way to having company in misery:)

Taking advantage of other's Sexual Problems

Ok, girls do it all the time. You go to the bar with your girlfriends, and you are GUARANTEED a few drinks (if you dressed slutty enough). Girls know that most men are sexually driven beings- reduced to slobbering, stuttering, cant take their eyes aways from your boobs, whenever the perceived opportunity to get laid is high. And it couldn't appear higher then out at the clubs or bars. But it is no longer the girls playing the men's game. Or the young gay men working the seasoned professionals. Now we have an even newer beast emerging into the crowd of sexually hungry animals. Pretty boys taking the gay seekers up on a few drinks, maybe even going as far as to encourage dinner or other freebies, only to drop them at the doorstep- like any polite lady would do at the end of a date, and say "See ya Suckers!"
In a world that has shunned any gay-fence wavering, it is strange to see these new, more adventurous boys take on the previously female dominated game of sexual solicitation. In most societies, gay men and woman are widely accepted, as long as they are full out committed gay. I would even go as far as to say, that for men especially, it is near suicide to admit to be unsure about your sexual interest. Unlike women, who can engage in female attraction and then male solicitation with ease, men cant be slightly gay, or gay one day and not the next. Men don't broadcasts these uncertainties, because it is not as acceptable for a man to be unsure. In the past, if you were not completely ready to commit, then slightly entering the gay community would be manslaughter to any decent female relationship in the future. Now however, with more and more young people questioning their sexual identity, we are seeing some cross-overs coming out. And where better to experiment then the clubs and bars, where you can still interact sexually, brush an other's ass suggestively, flirt or even catch a quickie in the bathroom, without risking who you really are. Or who you don't know you are.
Well, I should save my in depth analysis for a different post.
Taking advantage of an other's sexual problems? Not to say that men are the only ones with sexual problems, they just seem to be more prevalent then women with similar issues. Thus we end up with this typically reoccurring situation; men offering up anything they can (free drinks- rides in fancy cars- nice dinners) in an effort to get laid. And the woman take it. Why do we take it? perhaps it is because we feel like we have to live in a male sexually dominated world and this is a slight recouping of the high cost of constantly being perceived as a sex object. We get whistled at on the street, felt up on the bus, openly ogled. Honestly... men show their sex drive way more obnoxiously then any female. Using that to our advantage in the bars to get some free stuff, may just seem like a little pay back. Now think about this: If pretty boys (aka- slight framed straight men) are turning to the same tactic, then what does that say about the increased onslaught of gay solicitation? Are we doomed to live in a world that is run by the male penis?

Why do women LOVE gay guys?

What seriously, is our obsession with gay men? And I speak for most women in general, because we love the idea of having gay friends. Perhaps it is because gay men are not as threatening? Women feel that they can interact on a more comfortable level- wait, I got it! We can... Flirt... without worrying that we will have a stalker on our hands! And you know most women LOVE to flirt. It makes them feel beautiful, special, the center of attention! Flirting allows us to get our insecurities out and feel more confident. And yes, we flirt with men... but what happens when you flirt with straight men? Well... we often get more then we want. A little attention is always good, but now that we got our free drink at the bar, we really didn't want some guy trying to put his hand up our skirt while he breathes drunkenly in our ear! I mean think about it! Most woman don't flirt to get a husband- they flirt to get a little self validation (and free drinks). When you compare scenarios, its much more appealing to flirt with a gay guy that will hug you, stroke your hair, tell you your pretty and that when you meet that hot hunk you deserve, can he just please get a piece of his ass FIRST! Seriously... can it get any better then that? And also- don't forget-... its still a male giving you attention, he just smells better, has manicured hands, and he notices your outfits!

Masters of Manipulation?

Who holds the keys when it comes to manipulation? Men or woman?
It is common to think that woman are the masters... but perhaps we woman are underestimating the male species!

Think about this:
You are hanging out with a guy, and he is definitely interested. In fact, his heart is on the line.. pretty obvious. You don't really have to worry about wither he wants to go out with you. Its still early on in the relationship, and your girlfriends cancelled a fun girls night out, so you give him a ring. Ooops. No answer. That's weird, since he has always answered before. No worries. But, then, a day passes, and then another, and nothing. You start to freak out, and finally break down and send a text wondering what he's doing.. all casual like, you know! The following day you get a call... He was super busy at work, but excited to see you again, and wants to take you out for dinner that night. Weird? May be perfectly honest, but now you are completely unsure and slightly agitated about where you stand with him.
You may not be so quick to think he's so available next time you want to hang out.
Slightly manipulative perhaps?
Men have more power then they think when they take away the expected from a girl. Woman like to know where they stand, be in control of their heart, and how much they put out there. To do this well, they NEED to know where your heart is. I am not saying its healthy to use this manipulative power, just acknowledging that its there, and when used, can pretty much throw any woman into a basketcase.

Beware though! Most woman don't take kindly to this, and will often retaliate with a much worse manipulative method!